Has the word consequences gotten a bad wrap? Do gloom and doom clouds hovering over head come to mind when you hear the word?
Isn’t “suffer the” a normal prefix for consequences? I personally can’t remember ever hearing the word used to refer to pleasant results. On the contrary, feelings of failure to meet some enigmatic requirement, or reach some outlandish goal typically come to mind, that is…until now.
As I take an honest look at myself, and watch Kim starring in her own Lifetime movie of life lessons, I think me and consequences can start over with a renewed understanding. If I open my heart and soul to see the positive possibilities within my consequences, who knows, perhaps a friendship between us can now evolve, without my former grimace at the mere mention of the word.
So to quit hating on consequences, Quitters, here are some positive characteristics I think we can all grow to respect with a little truth and honesty:
1. Consequences don’t control us; we control them.
Consequences never go first. They’re not out to get you. They don’t ask to be here – they are summoned, called, invoked after being produced by some other action or condition based on our choices. This is actually cool news, Quitters, why? Because it puts us in control of consequences, and not the other way around. With foreknowledge, we are not helpless victims of consequences. If the reality of a certain consequence ticks you off, causes you anxiety or pain, makes you miserable – guess what – you are not sentenced to that prison without first being handed the warden’s keys!
2. Consequences encourage you to think before you act.
What would my life, your life, the world be like if more of us really thought about our words and actions before we said or did them. I’m of the mindset that people, in general, don’t like pain, embarrassment, loss, and the like. So how is it that we make such thoughtless decisions, and then are mad at the who?….the consequences! Sound judgment after self-evaluation, Quitters, is the key to a life with less misery and hardship. Thinking before you act is also a loving gesture – any time you can save yourself or others pain and heartache – boy that’s Love!
3. Consequences grow you up.
Look, we can’t stay 5 forever. At some point in life, we have to grow up and learn what, where, how, when to do stuff AND why! It starts as early as potty training – we all grew to hate that sticky, wet, foul feeling, and learned to use the big “pot-pot”, yes? There’s a part of Love’s plan for all of us that reads: “The older you get, the more responsibility you’ll have, and a greater expectation that you make sound, mature decisions.” And that, my friends, without the need for 823 chances! Pain, hardship, embarrassment, loss all have a special way of getting our attention and growing us up – for our own good.
4. Consequences are excuse assassins!
If excuses are monuments of nothingness, consequences are the wrecking balls that destroy these monuments. When we’ve been made aware of the consequences, our “excuse card” immediately expires, and we are ejected from the blame game! Knowing the consequences, we are now empowered to manage our outcomes. Now, if you’re still in-process, quitting a love affair with excuses, you may or may not like this. But being able to live an excuse-free life, one where responsibilities are fully owned, mistakes are learned, and you emerge a better person – this is the fulfilled life I envision for myself and the Quitter Nation.
What’s your viewpoint on consequences? How have consequences matured you, murdered your excuses, and/or benefited your life?
“Dear Love, I quit hating on consequences, and give thanks for the outcomes and lessons that mold me to be a better person.”
- Dr.Phil shares his 10 Happiness & Success Laws To Live By. (khayamtshali.wordpress.com)
- 10 Habits You Must Quit to Be Happy (whisperambrose.wordpress.com)