I got into a fight in 1st grade. She pushed me down on the sidewalk; I got up and pushed her down on the sidewalk. We were both sent to the nurse (and detention), and ended up with almost identical scars that remained through high school. We grew to laugh at our story.
But before my scar came along, my skin grew this rough, bumpy scab. As a kid, I was intrigued by scabs lol. How’d the body do that? And look how easily you can pick it off, see the dotted, white skin underneath, and then it grows back again…like magic, ooh :-).
Needless to say, times have changed since 1st grade – including my outlook on wounds, scabs, and scars. Life has taught me that some of the nastiest scrapes and deepest wounds never crack your skin, but your soul. You took that class too? And while we can’t put a physical band-aid on our bleeding souls, Love is at work forming an invisible life scab to protect the healing process.
But in little Kim fashion, and maybe you can relate…sometimes it’s still so tempting to pick at the scab. It’s not enough for us to move out of Love’s way so healing can manifest without us meddling. Noo. We find ways to justify why the picking must begin…
Ways we PICK our life scabs:
- Constantly ruminating over painful past events that wounded us.
- “Acting out” against the wound with more destructive behavior.
- Excessive frustration over the hows and whys of the wounds.
- Obsessively wishing things had turned out differently; what could WE have done to avoid the wound.
- Constantly soliciting opinions, viewpoints, inspections, and “two cents” about the wound from others.
- Seeking revenge and/or punishment to wound those who caused our wound.
Well, Quitters. It’s time we quit picking our life scabs, and here are a few reasons why:
1. It represents dis-order.
God is a God of order. There is a predetermined order, structure, and PEACE intended for our healing process. When we pick at the scab, we introduce chaos and confusion that disses the order and love-plan for our healing. Thoughts and actions that nourish grudges and unforgiveness set us “apart”, “away from”, and are a “negative, reversing force” against our healing process.
2. It introduces infection.
The wound is already pain enough, isn’t it? By picking the scab, we add insult to injury, we enlarge and magnify the offense, and create additional pus and pain that were outside the scope of the wound. Now, we not only have to heal from the original wound, but from the effects of the negative infection we added to the mix – which can be MUCH WORSE than the wound. Wounds wound; infections can KILL!
3. It can increase the risk of disfiguring scars.
By submitting to the healing process, we can actually minimize the developing scar. For instance, why have to heal from a bankruptcy scar too, because you started overspending to cope with the pain from the wound? Love’s intended shape and size of your scar does not take your scab-picking into account – but nothing catches Love off guard, the larger wound can heal too.
4. It delays healing, which delays freedom, which delays…
You have things you want to accomplish, right? Well, when we’re wounded and healing, we are not as effective as our whole, healed selves envisioned by God. I don’t know about you, but I don’t like to be wounded around people. It impedes my independence, my strength, my total abundance. There is an abundance that awaits after healing; don’t sabotage the time it takes to get there by picking scabs.
5. It aborts Love’s Purpose – To get us from wound to scar
Get this. The purpose of your wound was to HEAL and HELP others. Notice the wound didn’t kill ya. Yes, it hurt like crazy, it left a mark, you had to compensate somehow for it, but YOU’RE STILL HERE! The wound didn’t come to take you outta here, but the scar it leaves can bring others out of the same or similar situation with hope, determination, and a healed scar of their own! So stay on purpose, Quitters. The goal is a healed scar!
Now, just like physical scab-picking can be a psychological disorder, so can the picking that goes on in our minds. If you’re unable to quit on your own, consider adding the help of a counselor or therapist to your personal work of prayer and surrender to God.
A scar is a story written by the wound and published by the scab. Let’s give our scabs the space and freedom to do their part. Your wounds have awesome, victorious stories to tell – Love heals! God is Love!
Are there other reasons NOT to pick life scabs? Do you find it tempting to pick your scabs? How do or will you resist?
“Dear Love, I quit picking the scabs of my wounds, and surrender to your perfect healing process. My intervention is not needed.”
- Wound Care (celetac.wordpress.com)